When a part of us that wants something is in conflict with a fearful part of ourselves, there is internal friction. These two parts rub against each other and often the fearful part wins. That is how self-sabotage comes into play. To complicate matters, we are often...
Without a doubt, it feels good to win. When we’re playing a game, when we get what we want, when we feel accomplished, we feel good. But why does winning mean so much to us? Understanding the answer to this question is pivotal because we often are willing to go to...
As a burnout coach, too often I’ve heard about high achievers burning out due to work related demands. Certainly, if your job is asking too much from you in too little time, it will create overwhelm and stress. Over time, that stress becomes chronic and you find...
According to the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics, about 2,000 people escape from prison each year. Considering that there are roughly 2.3 million individuals incarcerated in the United States, less than 1 percent of prisoners ever attempt this and many of those who...
Jean-Dominique Bauby had more determination in his left eyelid than many people have who are alive and well. At the age of 43, Bauby suffered a stroke that left him not only speechless, but unable to move his body. The exception was his one eye. If you were rendered...
When we are faced with an external event, such as high demands from our job, it is not uncommon to find a range of reactions to it. While some people complain because they are upset, others become anxious and easily overwhelmed, while others still focus on taking...
One of the biggest fears people have is the fear of being themselves. That’s because they are afraid of what other people might think of them. This exact fear is what leads us to worry about how we are being perceived, it keeps us playing small in an effort to avoid...
Have you ever lost zest for your work but weren’t sure whether it was boredom or burnout? Before I was a full-on coach and I worked as a therapist. I would see people on a weekly basis. The way I approached my work was with the goal of helping my clients build their...
My life was stable and predictable until I turned eight. Since that time, I’ve experienced major changes in my life that required me to adapt, fit in, and evolve. As a burnout coach, I often help my clients with these same issues as they pertain to the workplace....
If you’ve spent your entire life just giving, it may seem like an impossible task to break through this habit. The breakthrough has to start in your mind. Overgivers don’t always recognize they are stuck in this pattern. This became clear to me at a recent conference...
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