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My life was stable and predictable until I turned eight. Since that time, I\u2019ve experienced major changes in my life that required me to adapt, fit in, and evolve.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n As a burnout coach, I often help my clients with these same issues as they pertain to the workplace. They too experience the unexpected \u2013 chronic stress, sleepless nights, too many responsibilities that burden them mentally and physically, leaving them feeling wired but tired.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n They too have to find a work culture that fits their values where they feel supported and aligned.<\/span><\/p>\n When their experiences at work differ from what they expect, desire, or value, they often struggle. It is when that struggle becomes chronic that they get into burnout territory.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n In looking into my journey as a child, I share ways that I\u2019ve evolved to think, feel, and behave more resiliently after overcoming adversity. In my story there are lessons to help you be more strategic and intentional at work and just maybe avoid burnout.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n It was the late \u201870s in Israel. I was eight years old and my parents decided that they wanted a change of scenery. My grandmother happened to be living in the States at that time so they moved us all to Florida and I had to restart my entire life.<\/span><\/p>\n Upon arrival, I entered the third grade without speaking a word of English. Prior to the move, my mom tried to get me prepped because she knew that I was going to have to be able to get through the day.<\/span><\/p>\n When I\u2019d come home from second grade, she would have me going through various exercises to teach me the ABCs.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n By the time we arrived in America, the extent of my English was being able to declare the days of the week and the months of the year. I could not put a sentence together.<\/span><\/p>\n I can remember a couple of girls coming up to my desk, wanting to talk to me. I just had no idea what they were saying.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n My challenge, at that time, was being unable to participate. Not only could I not engage socially for a big part of that first year, but academically, I could not participate in anything that was going on around me. There weren’t a lot of resources at that time in my school.<\/span><\/p>\n People often think that the reason they burn out is due to high demands. Research shows us that sometimes, the answer is not about lowering the demands, but in increasing our resources. Imagine you had the same amount of work to do, but you have more time or more systems in place to get your work done.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The truth is that we don\u2019t want to feel overwhelmed. At the same time, when we are underwhelmed due to work that\u2019s uninspiring or<\/span> under-challenging<\/span><\/a>, we can burn out from that as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n What resources are available to you that would help you meet the demands of your work with less stress?<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n In addition to the social and academic components, one of the hardest things for me about the move to the States was the cultural shift.<\/span><\/p>\n I came from quite a different background where I was growing up at the time in Israel. We grew up modestly. I remember going out to eat very sparsely. Mostly, we\u2019d eat meals at home. There was a different kind of mentality then in the \u201880s.<\/span><\/p>\n Then I came into a private school in the States where many of the families were financially well-off. In our family, my mom had to work at the school just to subsidize the tuition!<\/span><\/p>\n On the weekends, when friends slept over at my house, my parents would take us out to do some fun activity, like roller skating. They felt it was their responsibility to entertain us kids. But when I would go to my friend\u2019s house to sleep over, the friend\u2019s parents would take me shopping with their kid. I would sit there and watch my friend try on shoes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n For all these reasons, I didn\u2019t feel like I fit in.<\/span><\/p>\n FIt is important not just socially. It’s important at work. In fact, when you don\u2019t feel like you fit in culturally with your organization, you can burn out.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\u00a0<\/h3>\n
Demands & Resources\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n
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Cultural Fit<\/span><\/h3>\n